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Purposeful Parenting

July 21, 2015

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What is purposeful parenting?

Purposeful parenting is based on the idea that parents should be interested and active in a child's life.  This helps to build strong, positive relationships between parents and their children.  Purposeful parenting includes:

  • Structure & Order
  • Responsibility & Accountability
  • Firmness & Fairness
  • Limits & Boundaries
  • Consistency
  • Problem-Solving Skills
  • Understanding
  • Unconditional Love

Tips for creating a more positive and loving home life 

  • Tell your children you love them, and do it often.
  • Find at least one thing your child has done right each day.
  • Create a safe environment for the entire family.
  • Spend free time together.
  • Plan fun family activities.
  • Teach values and the benefits responsibility.

How to discipline your child in a positive way

Discipline and punishment are not the same thing.  Children respond to respect and positive expectations.  Some positive ways to discipline include:

  • Distract the child
  • Ignore bad behavior
  • Structure the environment
  • Control the situation, not the child
  • Involve the child
  • Plan time for loving
  • Let go of the anger
  • Increase positive behavior
  • Notice positive behavior
  • Excuse the child with a time-out

Remember, the better you are with discipline, the less you will have to punish.

Fun things to do with kids and family:

  • Summer picnics
  • Make puppets and put on a show
  • Go camping
  • Go to the beach
  • Bike riding
  • Play a sport
  • Cook/bake as a family
  • Play board games or cards

Resources for parents

Parenting Resources

Center for Parent Information and Resources

National Parent Helpline

"Parents need to fill a child's bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can't poke enough holes to drain it dry" - Alvin Price

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