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I may have gonorrhea, can I get treated at the
» I recently had unprotected oral sex...
» My husband cheated, now I have an STD...
» I think I might have gonorrhea, my ejaculate
It looks like a pimple...
What is HPV?
is riskier: oral sex on males or females?
Do I need special tests for STDs?
Can my boyfriend contract my yeast infection?
a sex partner has AIDS, or a sexually transmitted
EROS, I have had a sexual confrontation with someone and
I have the symptoms of gonorrhea I want to know If I can get tested
at school at the Klotz Health Center or If I have to go somewhere
to get tested and obtain medicine??? (I would appreciate it If I
got a response ASAP)
GJackson, Yes, we will test you at
the Klotz Student Health Center and prescribe medicine for treatment
EROS, I have recently engaged
in both oral and anal sex. While my oral sex is not protected, when
my partner penetrated me he had a condom on. I'm wondering, am I
still at high risk of STD during unprotected oral sex?
And how damaging is anal sex to the body? I feel fine, but he did
get a little rough. Signed, Just a little concerned
Just a Little, We're glad you wrote
in to ask and get clarification. We cannot give you a specific answer
without knowing all the facts. Are you at risk for unprotected oral
sex? Yes. Is it high risk? Well, that depends on a number
of factors, all of which have some bearing on this:
you go down on your partner? Or your partner on you?
you male or female?
your partner have an STD, that you may not have known about?
mouth has a lot of enzymes at work, so often goes to work on pathogens
before they can do a lot of damage. But someone with an open sore
of any kind (or braces) or or a canker sore, or a paper cut in the
mouth or on the lip….all these may provide a pathway into
the system. Even something as simple as eating tortilla chips with
sharp edges could cause microscopic tears in the lining of the mouth.
Subsequent unprotected oral sex, could potentially put something
into your system.
don't mean to completely creep you out here. There is risk, but
not terribly high risk. You should just have the facts though.
other question was about whether anal sex is damaging to the body.
Again we don't have a definitive
answer. The rectum is not made of elastic tissue as the vagina is.
So it will stretch less, and tear more. That said, there are ways
to make it safer, starting with using a lubricant to smooth the
way, stopping if it hurts, being relaxed, etc. If he got rough and
it hurt and you didn't say anything, your partner had no way to
make it better. If it got rough and it hurt and you did say something
and you and your partner reconfigured, etc., all the better.
you feel you put yourself at risk, come in to the health center
or see your health care provider and get tested. Good luck.
EROS, I have recently tested positive for a vaginal STD.
My husband of 16 years admitted to being unfaithful. He had another
woman perform oral sex on him. I think he actually had intercourse
too (not that it matters, infidelity is infidelity). In trying to
find out the truth, is it possible that I could get an STD from
his getting a blow job? Sincerely, Mad as Hell
Mad as Hell, We could probably give
you better information if we knew which vaginal STD you have been
diagnosed with. Some can actually be transmitted non sexually. But
in general terms, yes, you can get an STD from your husband getting
a blow job. As an example: if the woman who gave the blow job to
your husband had oral herpes, she could have transmitted it to his
penis and then he could have transmitted it to you. If that had
happened you would both now have genital herpes.
there are a lot of other STDs out in the big world. Bacterial infections
such as Chlamydia and gonorrhea can be spread through oral, vaginal
or anal sex, or by sharing sex toys. Viral infections such as genital
herpes and genital warts can be spread by skin to skin contact in
addition to oral, anal or vaginal sex.
you experiencing any symptoms? You may want to see your health care
provider and get more information on the specific infection you
were diagnosed with. You will want to know how to treat it, cure
it (if that is possible) and how to prevent it in the future.
would also recommend some marital counseling to help heal the rift
and allow you both to move forward. We wish you the best.
EROS, I think I might have gonorrhea and now I have been
obsessed with reading and seeing pictures about what it is. I am
worried I have it and may have passed it to other partners who have
given me oral sex. I have always used protection when having vaginal
and anal sex, but only occasionally for oral sex, if I haven’t
been with the partner for long. Well, what made me think that I
have this is due to the change I’ve noticed in my cum. When
I was younger, I remembered it to be a more whitish watery color
and sticky. But now, looking at it, what I have noticed is that
my cum looks a little thicker and it almost seems like it comes
in small clusters that aren’t exactly like it, but when I
pinch the fluid between my 2 fingers I can break the clusters apart.
It seems it got a little more chunky but it still remains white
and is still part clear when I ejaculate. It never hurts when I
pee, but I have also read that sometimes symptoms may not come up
if you have an STD. So I guess my question is if this change in
cum texture is normal or if maybe something is wrong. Either way
I am going to get a check up next Thursday but I would still like
to hear from you guys. So please email ASAP. Signed, Stressed out
Stressed Out Guy, You don’t
say how old you are, but you have noticed the consistency of your
ejaculation changing as you get older. That part is normal. We think
it is unlikely that you have gonorrhea. Usually men have quite painful
symptoms. Although, men with gonorrhea may have no symptoms at all,
if you do have them, they can appear 2-5 days after infection or
can take up to thirty days. Symptoms include painful or frequent
urination, discharges that are white, yellow, or even green. And
you don't list any of those symptoms.
The change in the texture of your ejaculate could be normal if you
have not ejaculated for a long time. It can also be due to a prostate
infection, but it is difficult to tell without being examined. So,
it is great that you are going to go to the doctor to get a check-up.
We also want to mention, to avoid future scares, that dental dams
and condoms during oral sex will keep you out of this kind of stress
you are experiencing.
EROS, I have been in a monogamous relationship for well
over a year now and I know she has no STDS at all. Well I masturbated
one night (using a very oily lubricant) and the next morning I woke
up and saw a pimple-like thing on the right side in the middle section
of my penis. Should I be worried about any STDS? It does not itch
or burn or anything. It looks like a red pimple. I am not sure if
I should be worried (I am now) or if it's just from the lubricant.
Please help ---Worried
Worried, Our first question is, how
do you know she has no STDS at all? Even though you've been in a
monogamous relationship for over a year, there are still many STDS
that have no symptoms. STDS could linger for several months to several
years before setting off to do more damage in you or your partner.
also could be just a reaction to the oily lubricant. Or it could
be a pimple but to be safe you may want to get checked out by a
health care provider.
EROS, What is HPV? I keep seeing things around on it. Is
there a vaccine against it? Just Wondering, and a little
right to be a little worried. We have quite a bit of it on this
campus. HPV (Human Papilloma Virus) is the group of viruses known
to cause genital warts, and is now linked to some cervical cancers.
Genital warts can be raised or flat, single or multiple, small or
large. Sometimes however, HPV infection causes no visible warts,
and many people with HPV do not know they have it. For women, an
abnormal pap smear may be the first sign that HPV is present. A
pap smear can show changes that could be caused by HPV infection,
although it is not an accurate test for the virus by itself. There
is no vaccine against HPV, so prevention is your best bet. Using
a condom can lower your risk of contacting HPV. For more information
about HPV, you're welcome to come in and see an EROS counselor.
EROS, Which is riskier: performing unprotected oral sex
on a male or a female? Arguing
with my partner
least you're both talking about it, which is better than not even
raising the issue! We are assuming you are referring to HIV transmission,
but the following applies to most STDs as well. While we don't recommend
performing unprotected oral sex on anyone, performing it on a male
is slightly more risky than performing it on a female, unless the
woman is menstruating. Of the body fluids which transmit HIV, blood
has the highest concentration of the virus, followed by pre-ejaculatory
fluid (pre-cum), semen, vaginal secretions and breast milk, in that
order. Therefore, performing unprotected oral sex is riskiest when
blood is involved (such as when a woman is menstruating), followed
by exposure to pre-ejaculatory fluid and semen (as in performing
oral sex on a man), and then exposure to vaginal secretions (oral
sex on a female). To make oral sex safer, condoms and barriers should
be used. "Kiss of Mint" condoms are designed for oral sex, since
they are non lubricated and flavored. We don't recommend a condom
with a spermicide on it because they taste awful. For performing
oral sex on a woman, a barrier should be placed between your partner's
genitals and your mouth. You can use a dental dam, cut a condom
lengthwise, or use a piece of Saran Wrap.
EROS, I had an abortion about a year and a half ago. I
had to go back in two weeks and see how everything was going. If
I had any
sexual transmitted diseases, wouldn't the doctor tell me then? Or
do I have to have a specific test for that? From: Asking
Asking, During the abortion procedure
itself, the clinician will generally not check for any sexually
transmitted infections (STDs). The follow-up visit after the abortion,
however, is an excellent time to voice any concerns about any STDs,
so that your clinician can check at that time. Generally, follow
this rule of thumb: If you are concerned about any STDs, you
have to be the one to ask your provider to check for them. During
any routine pelvic exam, if you have specific, recognizable symptoms,
such as sores on the vagina, redness, or vaginal discharge, your
provider may check then. The only problem is that for many STDs,
women may not produce any symptoms at all. Therefore it really is
your responsibility to request an STD check during your visit with
your provider. Keep in mind that some STDs -- including Syphilis,
Hepatitis B, and HIV -- need to be checked through a blood test.
of these tests can be done at our Student Health Center at low cost
compared elsewhere. To call for an appointment at the Health
Center call 677-3493. If
you would like more information or have any questions, you can call
EROS at 677-3696, or come in and see a counselor.
EROS, After taking a shower, my boyfriend performed oral
sex on me, but I have a yeast infection. Should I be worried? Is
this transmissible? Also, do you guys issue free condoms? And, I've
heard about this morning after pill do you guys offer any such thing?
Lots of Questions
Lots, Men usually do not contract
yeast infections, and especially since this occurred after your
shower, he is probably at very low risk. The vaginal itching is
probably a bigger annoyance factor for you. Yeast infections can
be treated pretty quickly these days. There are some creme medications
that work in 3 days and even an oral pill that is taken just once,
and works on its own over the next week or so. Regarding free condoms--the
EROS counselors do purchase condoms a few times a year to give away
at promotional events (Valentine's Day, Halloween, etc.), but in
general, no we do not give away free condoms just for the asking.
However, our pharmacy carries them REALLY inexpensively! You can
walk in and get 1 dozen condoms for the small sum of $2. It's one
of the best deals on campus. We highly recommend it.
about the morning after pill. It is now known as Emergency Contraception
or ECP. The name change is probably due to the fact that it can
be taken any time in the first 72 hours after unprotected intercourse.
The sooner you take it, the better. ECP reduces unintended pregnancies
by 75%, which thereby reduces the need for abortions as well. There
are a variety of dosages depending on what is prescribed for you.
Please see a clinician, if this pertains to you. Good luck.
If a sex partner has AIDS, or a sexually transmitted disease and
you let that person perform unprotected oral sex on you, will you
catch what they have through the intercourse of their saliva with
your penis? Can you answer for both scenarios "AIDS" and "STDs?"
Thanks for checking your concerns out with us. The truth is, yes
you are at risk for both HIV and other STDs. Depending on what the
other partner has, it's not just the saliva you need to worry about,
but open sores in their mouth that could transmit a virus. Plus,
does the encounter end with the aforementioned oral sex, or do you
engage in other activities that might also put you at risk? The
fact that you've asked if a sex partner had AIDS or STDs tells us
you don't know enough about your partners to be having unprotected
sex. Spend more time talking beforehand about risks and protection,
and risks and protection, and remember: NEVER NEGOTIATE NAKED!!