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I just had unprotected sex...today I got my period...
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I am pregnant...
I think that I may be pregnant...
EROS, Three or 4 days ago, I had unprotected sex with my
boyfriend, and today I got my period. Is there a chance I still
could get pregnant? Signed, Worried
Worried, VERY SLIM! The fact that
you got your period means that you were already heading towards
the end of your cycle, and most likely ovulations was over with.
If your cycles are very short (like under 24 days), we suppose there’s
an outside chance, but it’s remote.
the future, we would suggest that if unprotected sex happens, you
avail yourself of ECP (emergency contraception). It has an 89% success
rate at preventing unplanned pregnancies. If you are a student here,
you can get it easily in the Student Health Center. If you are not
a student here, we would recommend you log on to www.ecp-help.org
to find a participating pharmacy near you where you can get it.
works best if taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex, but new
evidence shows that there is benefit as long as 120 hours after
unprotected sex. So that gives you up to 5 days.
an EROS counselor if you and your boyfriend are interested in finding
a method of contraception you both can live with and enjoy.
EROS, Hi, I was wondering, how much of a chance is there
for one to get pregnant if you don’t use a condom, but the
guy doesn’t cum inside you? Signed, J
J, Well, we can’t give you
an absolute percentage, as there are a couple of factors need to
be considered. If he didn’t cum inside you but near you or
near the opening to the vagina, the sperm are still hardy swimmers
and if they could make it to the opening, they could swim up. Where
are you in your menstrual cycle when this happens? Are you nearer
to ovulating or nearer to menstruating? If you are approaching ovulation,
there is more risk of unplanned pregnancy. If you are close to your
period, there is less risk.
in doubt, we would encourage you to avail yourself of ECP (emergency
contraceptive pills). Taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex,
they are quite helpful in changing the environment so that you don’t
get pregnant. There is new evidence to support their use up to 120
hours after unprotected sex. Come in to the Student Health Center
and get it if you need it. If you are not a student, we would suggest
going to www.ecp-help.org to find a participating pharmacy near
to where you are so you can get ECP.
since you’ve brought it up, we are also concerned that you
might be putting yourself at risk for sexually transmitted diseases.
Unless you know an awful lot about your partner’s sexual history
(and your own), please consider protecting both of you from STDs,
by using condoms.
EROS, At the current time
I am 3 months pregnant, and was wondering does it cost any money
to give up your child for adoption? Signed, Wondering
Wondering, No, it does not cost any
money to place a baby for adoption. All expenses related to your
pregnancy can be covered by the adoptive parents. Actually, as a
birth-parent, you pretty much hold all the cards, and get to make
lots of choices about your child's future. You have a moral obligation
to grow a healthy baby (don't smoke, drink, or take drugs, get prenatal
care, etc.). You may also want to provide that child with some letter
or memento-- discussing your reasons for making an adoption plan
(still in school, too young, whatever), and let the child know that
he/she was cared about, but couldn't be taken care of by you.
that, you may specify what type of parents you would like raising
the child, whether you want it to be a first baby or 2nd, 3rd etc.
in the family, what religion you'd like the family to be, etc. In
an open adoption there is some contact with the adoptive parents.
It may be as minimal as exchanging pictures and information about
the families, or as much as visiting each other's homes, having
them take you to prenatal visits, having them in the delivery room
with you, getting letters and pictures on a regular basis, etc.
would encourage you to contact an attorney or an agency specializing
in adoption. We would also encourage you to read a book called "Dear
Birthmother, thank you for our Baby," by Kathleen Silber and Phyllis
Speedlin. It's a classic, and will really help you, we think. Best
of luck with your decision.
think I might be pregnant. I am a sophomore, and I don't want to
drop out, I don't want an abortion, and I am very scared of my parents'
reaction. My boyfriend is not going to leave me, but he doesn't
seem very happy about this. Can you tell us both all of our options
so we can start a serious discussion? From, Scared
Scared, The first thing to do is
to have a pregnancy test and find out for sure. Many women find
themselves in your shoes. The stress of worrying about a missed
period will often cause it to be even later! If you come to the
Student Health Center, we can run a pregnancy test in just a couple
of hours, at no charge. Leave us a urine sample in the morning,
and we'll have an answer for you in the afternoon. The next step
is to meet with a pregnancy counselor, who will discuss your situation
and give you information about your options so you can make an informed
choice. In any pregnancy there can be only 3 options:
may continue the pregnancy and become a parent;
may continue the pregnancy and make an adoption plan;
you may terminate the pregnancy and have an abortion.
what to do about an unintended pregnancy is deserving of some quality
time with a counselor (also no charge for this service). The goal
here is to give you enough information so you can make an informed
choice that you can live with. We'd like you to be able to look
back in five years, and feel certain you did the right thing for
that time in your life. We have information and "reality checks"
for you. How will your life if you exercise each of these options?
How much will it cost? What kind of support network do you have?
etc. These are all questions to consider before deciding about your
pregnancy. But first get a test and know for sure.