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...he used 3 fingers, and now I'm bleeding...
» Did I break my girlfriends hymen?
» I am 16, why is my cycle so irregular?
» Are my boyfriends fingers causing me damage?
How can I take care of cleaning my bikini area?
I inserted something inside myself and now...
During intercourse, I see blood...
Will my boyfriend notice if I had sex with someone
How do I control pubic hair growth in my butt...
I'm 21 years old and am sexually active.
Why is it important for me to have
a pap smear?
My boyfriend was masturbating me and I noticed blood...
have a question concerning my penis
time he fingers me, there is a little bit of blood...
EROS, My boyfriend was fingering me…he always does
it and there’s never been a problem. But this time he used
3 fingers and pushed them up far and I started to bleed. What happened?
Why did it do that? Am I ok? Will it stop? Signed, Bleeding
Bleeding, There could be a number
of explanations. His fingers may have bumped the end of your cervix,
and his fingernails may have caused a tiny tear or laceration. The
width of 3 fingers (it sounds like that’s not what he usually
does) may have abraded or scraped the vaginal walls. In general
the bleeding should stop within a day. If it doesn’t, or you
feel it is excessive bleeding now, come in and see a clinician.
EROS, I was fingering my girlfriend, then suddenly she
started bleeding. She is very worried, as I am. Is this because
she broke her hymen? We have decided not to have intercourse till
we get married. Actually in our society, the hymen is considered
to be the proof of virginity. So, if she broke her hymen, is there
a way to check it? Because we don’t want anything to happen
to it. Also, can I continue to finger her without breaking the hymen?
Worried, It is possible that the
hymen broke. It is also possible that there was no intact hymen
there to begin with. We understand your societal views about a hymen
being proof of virginity, but medically speaking, a virgin is just
someone who has not had intercourse yet. So it is possible she is
still a virgin. In today’s active world, girls could have
broken their hymen long before they got to be adolescents—falling
off the porch, riding a tricycle as a kid, doing gymnastics, playing
soccer, are all ways she could have broken her hymen years ago.
None of that makes her any the less a virgin, medically speaking.
she were to come in for an exam, it is possible to check and see
if the hymen is still intact. If it is, you may want to avoid fingering
if you are concerned about breaking the hymen. You could still manually
stimulate her in the clitoral region, just make sure not to insert
anything very deep into the vagina.
if the hymen is not intact, it doesn’t necessarily mean that
it broke with the fingering. Hope that helps.
EROS, I am 16 years old. I started my period when I was
12 years old. My cycle is very irregular. Is it normal to have a
period 3 times a year, even though you’ve been having periods
for 4 years? Will I not be able to birth children in the future?
Does my body make its eggs rarely? Do I need to see a doctor? Signed,
Body Worries, It is normal to still
be irregular at 16, but having periods just 3 times a year could
be your body’s way of signaling a hormonal imbalance. Seeing
a health care professional is a good idea. A simple blood test will
let you know your hormone levels, and whether you need some assistance
to bring them into balance. We wouldn’t worry just yet about
your ability to give birth. The ovaries are amazing things, and
are capable of all sorts of convoluted ovulations. We don’t
know if you are ovulating rarely or regularly. The tests should
help you find out. Good luck and thanks for contacting us.
EROS, My boyfriend and I have
been together for 7 months. We never really have sex, but he fingers
me a lot. A few months ago, everything was normal when he fingered
me. But about a month ago, I bled after he fingered me one night.
It wasn’t a lot and nothing felt wrong while he was doing
what he did. After that night, every time he fingers me the inside
and outside of my vagina swell up, I bleed, and it’s really
sore the next day. The swelling and bleeding usually go away the
next day too.
was really concerned and went to the doctor twice about it. The
doctor said everything was fine and it was probably just my ovulation.
But last night, it happened again. The fingering feels fine, but
then at some point, it hurts, because it feels like he’s hitting
something that he shouldn’t be hitting.
was just wondering if it is possible that he could have ruptured
something in there the first time I started to bleed. And if so,
could he be rupturing it over and over again every time he fingers
me? Also, my doctor put me on birth control pills two days ago.
I haven’t started it yet. But, if in fact, he ruptured something,
will the bleeding from that stop with the Pill? Signed, Scared
fears are normal. What is happening in your vagina is not. The kind
of sexual activity you describe with your boyfriend should feel
pleasurable as it did when you began 7 months ago. We’re glad
you wrote and want to get help. We disagree with your doctor that
the bleeding is due to ovulation. You are not ovulating every single
time this fingering activity happens. It is not likely that something
ruptured, as you fear. If a rupture happened, there would be uncontrolled
bleeding and it would just stop the next day. It sounds to us like
you might have some kind of infection that is contributing to this.
you are a student here, we suggest you come in and see a different
doctor than you saw the first 2 times. Explain the chronology of
what has been happening, and ask for an exam (or show this letter).
Someone who knows what they are looking for, will check your vagina
for any abnormalities, discharges, signs of infection, etc.
are a couple other things we feel compelled to mention. It might
go without saying, but make sure your boyfriend’s hands are
clean and his fingernails neatly trimmed. We would hate to have
you start a lot of testing and have it be something simple like
that. He shouldn’t be introducing any bacteria or dirt into
we are glad you have not started taking your birth control pills
yet. If you are not having intercourse and are sure you won’t
be for a while, don’t feel pressured into taking them, just
because a doctor “put you on them.” It is your choice
whether you want to be on them or not. Don’t get us wrong,
there are many non-contraceptive benefits to being on the Pill,
but you should get some information and make an informed choice
yourself. Don’t be passive and let others dictate your reproductive
EROS offers free birth control information sessions several times
a week. You may bring your boyfriend if you like, and you’ll
be able to find out about all kinds of different kinds of contraception,
how to use them, advantages, disadvantages, failure rates etc. You
may decide to choose something other than the Pill when you are
ready to contracept. Check our website for the schedule of classes.
EROS, This will maybe sound a little weird and crazy, but
I have confidence you will respond:) I have bikini line hair in
a pretty wide area and I have tried several ways to get rid of it
(this would include shaving, plucking, cold waxing) but every time
I do (shave for example) when hair starts to grow back I experience
rash all over the affected area. I got really sick of it so I shaved
the whole bikini area (what's seen and unseen), and I couldn't walk
for two days because of itching and burning and discomfort of the
newly growing hair. Is there any way of getting rid of this hair
without using razors, or laser intervention? I am really optimistic
that you guys will help me. I enjoy my hair short down there, it
is easy to maintain and always added pleasure for my fiancée.
:) Optimistic :)
First off we suggest not shaving the whole bikini area because you
had such discomfort. Also shaving or plucking can result in ingrown
hairs, which may get infected and hurt a lot. There are ways of
removing hair but to this area we do not suggest it. Electrolysis
can be done, but it is recommended for areas that don't have as
many nerve endings. It also does not stop hair growth completely.
The bikini area, especially the labia is highly sensitive due to
the vast nerve endings. We suggest if you are interested in waxing,
go get it professionally done. Waxing will slow the growth but again
will not stop the hair growth completely. One optimistic thought
is, as one ages the amount of pubic hair does decrease!
EROS, I'm a straight 23-year-old male. I have a big problem
and need help. When I was 19, I was exploring my anal area and inserted
a cucumber about 2 and half inches inside. Ever since then, I haven't
been able to walk real well and I keep having flashbacks of what
I did. I wish I had never done it. I keep thinking how big the cucumber
was and how far I inserted it. Even though it's been almost 5 years;
I still can't get this embarrassing ordeal out of my head. Is what
I did normal? And is there any medical lotion I can use to repair
the damage to my anal area? Please respond. Thanks, Embarrassed
It is normal to experiment and no you are not a pervert for doing
this. If damaged has occurred you may need to be checked out by
a doctor. The tissue inside the anal area is very sensitive and
possibly you may have torn some tissues internally without knowing
it. If there was a tear and because you are uncomfortable, it may
have not healed correctly. We also suggest going to see a psychologist.
This may help in talking about the situation.
EROS, After intercourse on several occasions I have noticed
some blood, which appears to be part of the semen/discharge from
my partner, not from me (I am female). It has happened about three
times over the pastyear or so. I have never noticed this in other
intimate relationships. Is this something to worry about? Signed,
Worried, We are guessing the blood
is coming from you and mixing with semen. It could be that he is
hitting the cervix during sexual intercourse. It could also be that
you have an infection pretty high up in the vagina or on the cervix.
We could encourage you to see a health care provider to rule out
Will my boyfriend notice if I had sex with someone else? Just Curious
Just Curious, We are more concerned
that you have a boyfriend and still had sex with someone else. What
does this say about your relationship? About trust issues? The answer
to your original question however is: it depends on when you had
sex with the other person. If it was 3 weeks ago, probably not,
but if it was 3 hours ago, he might notice. Recent sexual activity
might leave your vulva red or swollen and if it was unprotected
sex there might be dripping of ejaculatory fluid.
EROS, This question may sound crude, but it's serious.
As a guy, the older I get the more hair I discover is areas where
there wasn't hair before. For example, nobody wants hair growing
out of their ears, but it happens and it's irritating. When I find
hair in or around my ears, I just pull it out, because I don't know
any other way to get rid of it.
question is--how do you get rid of hair growing in "the crack of
your butt?" I have a lot of hair near my anus and it makes it hard
to clean the area with toilet paper after using the bathroom. Is
it unsanitary to have hair there, because it seems to stay dirty
even after you use toilet paper? When having sex, I am self conscious
about the hair, when my girlfriend wants to touch me there. I'm
also aftraid it might smell during sex. Is there a safe and easy
way to get rid of hair in that area? Because of where the hair is,
it's just too embarrassing to ask other guys what they do, and I've
never found the nerve to ask my doctor. Please print your answer
in your column in the Sundial. Thank you. Embarrassed
The questions you have are not crude at all,
but we can understand why you would be embarrassed to ask anyone
in person. We don't know of any way you can safely remove the hair
around your anus; trimming with scissors might be possible, but
only if you are very flexible! The easiest way to keep the area
clean (besides showering before having sex), is to use baby-wipes.
You can discreetly take them on the road by putting a few into a
zip lock bag that will easily fit into your back pocket. You can
also buy travel packs of these little wipes.
people have some hair in the anal area. If you think (or know?)
you have more than most people, it may just be a normal variation,
just as the amount of hair on a man's chest can vary. It is possible
that your girlfriend does not mind at all. After all, you've said
she wants to touch you. Maybe she does not even notice. This might
sound difficult but you could ask her how she feels. Discussing
an embarrassing subject and making yourself vulnerable might open
up your relationship to new levels of intimacy.
EROS, I'm 21 years old and am sexually active. Why is it
important for me to have a pap smear? Interested
The primary purpose of a pap smear is to detect the presence of
abnormal cells on the surface of your cervix. any woman who is sexually
active, regardless of her age, may be at risk for cervical cancer.
Recent studies have shown that cervical cancer is almost certainly
a sexually transmitted disease. The evidence strongly suggests that
the wart virus human papillomavirus (HPV) is the key culprit. The
warts may not be visible to the eye, and like many STDs, HPV may
not produce any noticeable symptoms. For this reason, regular pap
smears are important. The good news is that abnormalities detected
early can be treated easily and very effectively. You can get a
pap smear at the Student Health Center pretty easily and inexpensively.
Thanks for writing.
EROS, While my boyfriend was masturbating my vagina (with
his hands), I started to bleed. I am not a virgin and my period
was not due for another 2 weeks. Why did it bleed? Concerned
It is possible that your boyfriend accidently scratched you while
stimulating you. Since there are few nerve endings in the back of
the vagina or on the cervix, you would not necessarily notice that
you were injured. However, it is possible that the bleeding was
caused by a medical condition that would need the attention of a
clinician. We asked Dr. Ishida, the supervising physician in the
Student Health Center. She suggested you get a pelvic exam if it
mentioned your period was not due for 2 more weeks. If you are not
on the birth control pill, the bleeding may have been ovulatory,
which is not uncommon. When the egg bursts out of the follicle,
a few capillaries can get ruptured, and you may notice some mid
cycle bleeding or spotting.
the meantime, ask your boyfriend to keep his nails short and to
be gentle with your body.
am an 18 year old male and I have a question concerning my penis.
I have noticed pubic hair growing on the surface of my penis and
I don't know why. I can understand it growing on my balls, but not
"on" my penis itself. It almost looks like a rash of some type too,
however I haven't been sleeping with anyone, so I know it is not
some kind of a disease or anything, but I am too embarrassed to
ask a doctor or family. I was wondering if you knew what this strange
occurance is and what I should do about it. Thanks for listening
and being available for these questions. Signed, Bee
stumped us on this one, so we checked with Lynne Landeta, a nurse
practitioner here at the student health center, and this is her
answer: Pubic hair on the penile surface may be a developmental
change and may go away over time (you say you are only 18). We are
concerned there may also be a rash. It is best to see a provider
through the Student Health Center for an exam. There is nothing
to be embarrassed about. Your clinic visit is private and confidential.
EROS, I met a guy about a month ago and every time he fingers
me, there is a little bit of blood the next day in my underwear.
I have had sex before and have never experienced this. Is there
something wrong with me, or is it just his technique or something?
A little worried
Worried, Having spots of blood show
up on your underwear after fingering can be worrisome. We doubt
there is anything wrong with your body, though seeing a clinician
is causing this? It could be his technique. Think about those times
when your partner fingers you. Is it painful or uncomfortable? Does
it feel too rough? If yes, talk to your partner so his technique
can be altered.
no, and bleeding still occurs, it might be due to fingernails. They
can sometimes cause tiny cuts. Lack of lubrication could also be
a problem. You might be getting the equivalent of "rug burn" because
of the friction and lack of sufficient lubrication.
a few suggestions: use a latex glove or latex finger cots. Use a
water based lubricant. Adding lubrication will probably be the best
thing you can do. Try Astro Glide, KY Jelly, or any water-based