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» What does EROS mean? And where are you located?
» My girlfriend and I aren't getting along...

Dear EROS, What does EROS mean? And where are you located? Signed, Not Sure

Dear Not Sure, EROS stands for Education and Resources on Sexuality. It is a peer education and counseling program here at Cal State Northridge, housed in the Student Health Center. Students here, under the advisement of a professional health educator, are specially trained to give out information on birth control, STDs, HIV/AIDS, and sexuality issues. EROS counselors run group sessions for their fellow students, keep private office hours, make presentations in classrooms across campus, and participate in a variety of community activities, including this web page and advice column. They make a 1 year commitment to the program, and many have used it as a stepping stone to graduate or medical school. Thank you for asking.

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Dear EROS, Me and my ex girlfriend do not get along at all. She seems to hate me and I just don't get along with her anymore. There happens to be a problem, She's pregnant. Should we bring a child in this world if I really don't like her anymore 'cause of the little stupid things she does. I think she should get an abortion. This way, she doesn't have to deal with me and I don't deal with her. Why bring a child into this world if we are not together? I don't want a child of mine in a single parent household where mother hates father and father never comes around because he can't stand to be around mother. What do you think we should do? Stressed Out and Tired of Games.

Dear Stressed Out, We agree you are in a difficult situation, not the most ideal one to have a baby. But it's not as simple as "not together, no baby". You don't mention yours or your ex-girlfriend's background. Is abortion an acceptable option for you? for her? Remember that despite what you think, she gets the final say in this matter because it's her body.

In any pregnancy situation there are always 3 options, you can choose to continue the pregnancy and become parents, continue the pregnancy and make a plan for adoption, or terminate the pregnancy and have an abortion.

A single parent household is not the worst thing in the world, if the baby gets love and attention from parents and other extended family (even if Mom and Dad aren't together). But there's no question, it's hard work and takes its toll on all parties.

Making an adoption plan might be the perfect choice if either of you feel opposed to abortion. These days you can pick the parents, and have as much or as little contact as you wish. All pregnancy related expenses are covered by the adoptive parents.

Having an abortion might be the right choice if neither of you wish to be parents at this time in your life, and you could not participate in an adoption. This option is also influenced by how far along she is in her pregnancy.

We suggest both of you come in for pregnancy counseling. At that time, we can discuss all your options with you and assist you in making the best possible choice for yourselves. We'd like you to feel at peace with whatever decision you and/or she make.

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