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does EROS mean? And where are you located?
girlfriend and I aren't getting along...
EROS, What does EROS mean? And where are you located? Signed,
Not Sure, EROS stands for Education
and Resources on Sexuality. It is a peer education and counseling
program here at Cal State Northridge, housed in the Student Health
Center. Students here, under the advisement of a professional health
educator, are specially trained to give out information on birth
control, STDs, HIV/AIDS, and sexuality issues. EROS counselors run
group sessions for their fellow students, keep private office hours,
make presentations in classrooms across campus, and participate
in a variety of community activities, including this web page and
advice column. They make a 1 year commitment to the program, and
many have used it as a stepping stone to graduate or medical school.
Thank you for asking.
EROS, Me and my ex girlfriend do not get along at all.
She seems to hate me and I just don't get along with her anymore.
There happens to be a problem, She's pregnant. Should we bring a
child in this world if I really don't like her anymore 'cause of
the little stupid things she does. I think she should get an abortion.
This way, she doesn't have to deal with me and I don't deal with
her. Why bring a child into this world if we are not together? I
don't want a child of mine in a single parent household where mother
hates father and father never comes around because he can't stand
to be around mother. What do you think we should do? Stressed Out
and Tired of Games.
Stressed Out, We agree you are in
a difficult situation, not the most ideal one to have a baby. But
it's not as simple as "not together, no baby". You don't mention
yours or your ex-girlfriend's background. Is abortion an acceptable
option for you? for her? Remember that despite what you think, she
gets the final say in this matter because it's her body.
any pregnancy situation there are always 3 options, you can choose
to continue the pregnancy and become parents, continue the pregnancy
and make a plan for adoption, or terminate the pregnancy and have
single parent household is not the worst thing in the world, if
the baby gets love and attention from parents and other extended
family (even if Mom and Dad aren't together). But there's no question,
it's hard work and takes its toll on all parties.
an adoption plan might be the perfect choice if either of you feel
opposed to abortion. These days you can pick the parents, and have
as much or as little contact as you wish. All pregnancy related
expenses are covered by the adoptive parents.
an abortion might be the right choice if neither of you wish to
be parents at this time in your life, and you could not participate
in an adoption. This option is also influenced by how far along
she is in her pregnancy.
suggest both of you come in for pregnancy counseling. At that time,
we can discuss all your options with you and assist you in making
the best possible choice for yourselves. We'd like you to feel at
peace with whatever decision you and/or she make.